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hippieatspirit-deactivated20161 asked: How would you get over a heartbreak?
Every time I think about heartbreak or similar forms of being wounded, I am reminded of a post I once saw on Tumblr. It was a picture of a Japanese ceramic pot that had cracked and been repaired with gold. The idea was that the pot’s value then increased due to the damage rather than decreased.
This is an apt metaphor in many ways. Once the pot is broken, there is no going back to the way it was before. Instead of resisting that change, it is embraced. And through that embrace, the pot becomes something more miraculous than it had been in the first place.
I feel that the same thing goes for love and heartbreak. It hurts, and because it hurts our initial reaction is to avoid it. We want to cure it, get over it, change it, but by all means don’t stay with it. Whereas the wisdom of acceptance means to stop squirming and just be with it.
My father was a pediatric neurosurgeon and authored two books. A quote from one of them that I will never forget: Once our hearts get broken, they never fully heal. They always ache. But perhaps a broken heart is a more loving instrument. Perhaps only after our hearts have cracked wide open, have finally and totally unclenched, can we truly know love without boundaries.
You don’t ever get over a heartbreak. Things will never be the same again. However, that difference can be a source of raw love. It isn’t easy, it can be the work of a lifetime. But it is the only real option you have if you wish to stay sane and loving.
A book I would highly recommend is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron.
Namaste :) much love.
"If every person in this room made it a rule that wherever you are, whenever you can, you will try to act a little kinder than is necessary—the world really would be a better place. And if you do this, if you act just a little kinder than is necessary, someone else, somewhere, someday, may recognize in you, in every single one of you, the face of God."
R.J. Palacio (via lazyyogi)
"My point is: in this whole wide world the only person you can depend on is you."
Haruki Murakami (via thatkindofwoman)
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